Category: Life

  • Why Do Bad Things Happen To Good People?

    Why Do Bad Things Happen To Good People?

    Circumstances have nothing to do with morality. You don’t have to deserve what you go through.

    Being a good person does not justify that only good things happen to you. The fact that you’re good to other people doesn’t guarantee that others be good to you. Life doesn’t care, really.

    When you say, “why do good people go through bad things?”, what do you mean by “good” and “bad“? “Good” people sometimes do bad things, and “bad” people sometimes do good things. What makes a circumstance good or bad; the frequency, quality or personality? What is your yardstick; is it objective or subjective?

    It has even been scientifically proven that no situation causes anxiety. It is rather our psychological reaction to the situation that causes anxiety; not the situation itself.

    Sometimes we’re going to reap more or less than what we sow. Other times we’re going to reap what we don’t sow no matter what we sow.

    Good things don’t happen to bad people. Bad things don’t happen to good people. Things happen to people. The more we embrace this reality, the less entitled we’ll be.

    I love you ❤️

  • The Hard Truth

    People only care about you only when they are gaining something from you. People will appreciate you a lot only when you are a beneficiary to them. They will like you as long as you are what they want you to be.

    And when you suddenly aren’t able to help them, YOU become the bad person. They try to make you the victim of their demise. They begin to despise you for your neglect.

    Familiarity. They have familiarized themselves with your ever-helping hand. They have grown accustomed to your never-relentless presence.

    Entitlement. They now feel entitled to your help. You are supposed to help them fix the mess they created for themselves.

    Expectations. They expect you to be there for them. They don’t even know what their intentions are. They don’t know that they are valuing things and using people.

    When you don’t do what they expected you to do, then they say you’ve changed. They expect you to defend them against others even if they are wrong. Why? Because we are friends? Then how different are we from those who have no values, lack integrity yet only do well in covering each other’s back.

    I’d rather be a man of pure integrity than a man of many friends.

    I don’t believe in the product as much as I believe in the process. I will always stand for the truth and believe the best about others. But if my circle begins to believe I’m not a good person, I’d rather be in the anomalies as long as they resonate a positive vibe I can thrive in. It’s better to live in the desert than to live with a nagging wife.

  • Exploring the Kingdom

    Exploring the Kingdom

    Man has a natural inherent and incumbent desire to increase. Our brain has been modeled in such a way that it gets tired of stagnation, doldrums and boredom. So the next time someone complains that something is “one-way”, realise that we have the natural desire to increase in everything we do.

    Embrace this natural and pure desire and use to explore the goodness of God inside of you, inside of nature and inside of the Kingdom. When Jesus said “seek ye first the Kingdom…”, He wasn’t talking about something you do just once. The word “seek” is the Greek word zeeteite which means desire, enquire, marinate, discover.

    Jesus was saying discover the many things in the Kingdom; righteousness, peace, joy, prosperity, wisdom, riches, power, blessings, authority, honor, glory, revelations, miracles, signs, wonders, manifestations, success, strength, laughter, happiness and many many more. There’s always more in the Kingdom. Abundance. Increase. Growth. Development. Infinite. Unending. Everlasting. Eternal.

    A. A. Allen, who God used to perform many creative and dramatic miracles in his day, said and i paraphrase; don’t be afraid to go as far as impossible with God. No Christian has walked with God as far as God wants us to.

    When we discover, marinate, seek His Kingdom within you (Luke 17:21) and His Righteousness which is you (2 Corinthians 5:21); allllllllllllllll these things shall be added unto us.

    Tune your inherent desire to the Kingdom, and the things of the Kingdom which the world seeks shall naturally be yours.

  • Do You Have A Life?

    Do You Have A Life?

    Everyone will die but not everyone has lived. By that, I don’t mean that there are more people to be born, but that there are some existing who are not living. Is it possible to exist and not be fully alive?

    Priorities

    A sign that you probably don’t have a life is when you’re always going with the flow of events that suddenly pop up. People who have a life have priorities. They understand the idea that time is a precious commodity and that it should be allocated to matters that are deemed important and/or relevant at the time.

    People who are going nowhere want you to go with them. Be careful of people who rather parasite on people’s lives. They feel okay in their mess as long as they have someone in the same soup as them.

    Balance

    Productivity and busyness are not alike, they are opposites. The most productive people are not those who brush off almost everything because they have “priorities”, deadlines or tight schedules. It is actually those whose priorities and schedule are pretty much balanced.

    Once in a while, they may even go in their way to brush off their tight schedules and go with the flow of events. No matter what you make your life, it will eat you up if you don’t balance it with other priorities. Be flexible!

    Identity

    Life is basically about purpose. So whenever we’re sluggishly going through life though we’re partying every weekend, getting high every moment and getting laid every time, we still feel unsatisfied on the inside and we actually do not have a life because we can’t get our heads around the meaning and purpose for our doings.

    If we do not have a deep sense of meaning, we distract ourselves with pleasure.

    Daniel Good

    Remember, a purposeless life – no matter how fun it seems – is encapsulated with depression. Make sure your life isn’t centred around a job you can be fired from or friends you can lose.

    Life is an art. Every mistake is a new style. There are no rigid rules yet there are certain aspects that must be ancillary to the life we live. These aspects are meant to complement our lives rather than be it.

    Be mindful what you invest your life into. If it’s a job or position or relationship you can lose, don’t make it your life. Trust me. It will leave you devastated when it’s all gone. Invest your life in your identity; something you’ll always be no matter what, something that can never be taken away from you because it’s basically what you are. Live from within!

  • Tapping Into The New Year Energy ✨

    Tapping Into The New Year Energy ✨

    It is yet another new year of our lives and aren’t we so grateful? The new year always starts with a pure type of energy of hope and serenity where we think anything is possible, every goal is achievable, every wrong is forgivable and every moment of our past is far out of reach. Over the years, we get caught up in the enthusiasm and make resolutions that are basically baseless solutions. When this occurs over a considerable number of years, we tend to walk into the new year with a kind of indifference that scoffs at the whole idea of making resolutions.
    The fact that you failed in your business approach doesn’t mean the whole business thingy is useless. The fact that you suck at fishing doesn’t mean those who fish are wasting their time. The fact that you made resolutions in the past that changed nothing doesn’t mean resolutions change nothing. You simply need to change your approach rather than decimate the whole idea.

    The questions we need to ask ourselves are,

    • how are we going to be consistent?
    • how are we going to keep that same energy till the end of the year?
    • how are we going to actually do what we know we should do?

    1. Clear Objectives

    More often than not, we focus on the struggle rather than the objective. If you want to go the gym, what is your objective? The vaguer your objectives, the more likely you are to fall along the line. When you ask people what they want to do this year, they say basically the same things from the past 4 or more years; get closer to God, pray more, exercise more, eat well, save more money, get organized, live life to the fullest etc. These are extremely vague. After you have identified these vague objectives, clarify them the more by asking two simple questions; why? and how?

    Save more money.

    Why? I want to purchase a new LG phone. (amount = 750-1000 Ghana cedis)

    How? Save 100 cedis for 10 months.

               Save 25 cedis each week.

               Save 4 cedis a day

    Once the objective is clear and explicit, accountability is possible. Once you don’t know what the end result must look like, you wouldn’t be able to track your progress properly. If you don’t know where your destination is, you’d never know how far you are from there.

    2. Accountability

    In order to be consistent, we need to be disciplined. In order to be disciplined, we need to be accountable. Of course, we all know that it takes discipline, but we struggle with discipline all year long because of, perhaps, this one missing ingredient; accountability. Want to save more money? Then you should be able to review how much you spent every month. Once you keep a gradual track of your progress, you find new momentum to continue. If you first of all know how much you spend, then you can choose to either compromise your expenses or earn more. Once you have a goal, you need to have a plan.

    See! Everybody wants to save money, even the richest man in the world. There are several ways of saving money. Find out which one best fits your situation and break it down to an everyday lifestyle. Once you know you have to save 4 cedis today, you can at least make it a point to. There are times when you’d fail, no doubt. But at least, you’re well aware of it. There’s nothing worse than failing and not being aware because there’s no accountability. There is a need to review your life on the daily. Every day is a new day to be better than yesterday. But remember that it’s only possible with accountability. It is highly recommended that you have a friend or partner who holds you accountable for your actions.

    3. Time Allocation

    One factor that is most essential determines whether something is achievable or not is TIME. Everything is possible, but some things become impossible when time is not on our side. In other words, what makes the impossible possible is time. Time is the x factor. Everything is possible with time. Therefore, your time allocation will determine whether your set goal is achievable or not.

    Once you get the time factor wrong, your set goals become unrealistic. On the other hand, where there is no time allocation – what you’d do every day, every 2 weeks, every month etc – the goal becomes “immortal” and is never achieved. Even with goals concerning behaviours which must last a lifetime, time allocation is very essential;

    Want to spend more time with your spouse?

    Why? To have a more intimate relationship and communicate better as a couple.

    How? Go on a trip to resorts in the locality.

    Time allocation: Every last weekend of the month.

    Progress takes a long time to materialise suddenly. Realise that you’d need more time than you think you would. Even in matters of faith. At the end of the day, it wouldn’t be able about how long it took, it would be about how long it lasts. Take your time and establish something concrete that will stand the test of time rather than riding on the illusion of progress in taking less time and seeing everything fall into shambles later. Choose deeper roots first; taller trees will follow.


    I love you ❤

  • The Realities Of Faith

    The Realities Of Faith

    “For we walk by faith, and not by sight.”
    2 Corinthians 5:7
    “the just shall live by faith.”
    Romans 1:17, Galatians 3:11, Hebrews 10:38

    Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

    Faith is seeing with God’s Eyes. The LORD, the timeless God, sees not as man sees. Everything that is happening or will ever happen has been planned and prepared beforehand, even before the foundations of the world.

    For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.
    Ephesians 2:10 NKJV

    God not only knows the future; God in reality is the future. (Rev 1:8)

    Don’t live from earth towards heaven, live from heaven towards earth. Why? Cuz you’re a citizen of Heaven.

    We, however, are citizens of heaven, and we eagerly wait for our Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ, to come from heaven.
    Philippians 3:20 GNB

    God’s Word is settled in Heaven (Psalm 119:108). In God’s time, there is no future. Therefore, when we see through God’s eyes, we speak from the future into our present realities.

    This is the true meaning of prophecy. Prophecy is not speaking from the present into the future. It is rather speaking from the future into present realities. And there is an evidence, a knowing, a confident assurance, that it will come to pass. That is Faith.