What is Wrong with Pre-marital Sex? Part I

In our world today, many established ideologies have received scrutiny and backlash for being archaic and restrictive. Since the turn of the Enlightenment age, even the concept of God has been attacked and somewhat rescinded; how much more are the so-called “commandments of God”? This post is not for the highly religious who are quick to draw conclusions, although their actions and words don’t even tally lol. This is for the intellectuals who are not quick to answer questions but question answers. The line between good and bad is seen as subjective because the yardstick has been given to everyone to decide what is right in their own eyes. However, using the pragmatic approach, let’s see if the road is still clear without a moral compass.

Sexual Freedom

The opposite of freedom is not always bondage. After all, a man must be bound to something. With more freedom comes less safety. Therefore, a boundary is not a limitation. It’s a safety measure. To be totally free is the biggest deception. If you are free to do so, you should be free to stop. Reality unveils when you realise that you cannot stop. After the deception of “why should I stop?” has fallen from your eyes, you’d realise that you were enraptured, not by boundless love, but by bounding lust. You only enjoy the moment and the dark emotions thereafter are nothing to write home about. So these dark emotions are avoided by further indulging in the lustful pleasure. Very soon, you’ll realise it’s empty and you want something more. It only goes downhill from here. See, you are not the first person in the world to go down this path. I know the path is dark and you don’t realise that you are living in ignorance but hey, try switching on the light and see how many demons attack you. These demons are not your friends. Don’t play with lust. Stop entertaining yourself with the movies she projects in the thoughts of your mind. She has destroyed many. You are just a statistic to her.

Boundary or Limitation?

Believe it or yes, sex is very powerful. It is literally a ritual. A portal is unlocked, an exchange takes place and chemistry is solidified. To not create a safety measure around this is absurd. Even legos come with instructions. Blaming God for having a rule exposes your ignorance. Even married couples break up and are torn apart by divorce; how much more you and your accomplice? When you haven’t done something before, there’s a natural resistance to it. However, we know that soulish desires are stronger than natural resistances. When one pursues pleasure without purpose, activities lose meaning. Before you know, you may have had multiple partners already. Once you attack the very foundation of this safety measure, then there’s no need to defend other safety measures; sleeping with multiple partners, sleeping with same sex, sleeping with animals, sleeping with children, sleeping with dead people etc.

Responsibilities & Privileges

If you cannot deal with the consequences of a particular action, you have no business venturing into it. In other words, if you can’t handle the responsibilities, the privileges are not meant for you. It is a disclaimer of life. You are solely responsible for your actions even if you are ignorant of the detriment. Ignorance of the law is no excuse.

One may argue that it’s not pre-marital if there’s no plan for the “marital”. It’s absolutely normal to question the foundation of marriage since it is the basics for which pre-marital sex is sin. Even if you dislike the idea of a covenant, the tradition and/or the ceremony of marriage, it is and has always been a necessity. You didn’t give birth to the one who want to sleep with. Marriage simply becomes an ordinance before all the parties belonging; God, the families and the law. You are at fault if you simply take someone’s drink in the fridge without their knowledge or permission; how much more their son or daughter. If you are not planning to get married the traditional way, it still doesn’t exempt you from making the parties involved formally know. That formal signature is what makes it essentially marriage, signifying that you’re mature enough to handle the responsibilities and enjoy the privileges.

…..to be continued. Please let me know your thoughts and comments.