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  • Philosophy, Psychology, Pseudoscience & Perspectives

    Eons ago, the Greeks gathered under trees, and absolutely drunk, they discussed wild ideas. Such an informal gathering in open space is what birthed some of the prevalent ideas in modern society today. It was an open-mindedness so open trash was considered genius because it was new. Soon, philosophy became a thing as these informal schools came up with schools of thought that debunked the status quo. People want something unconventional instead of something fresh. They want stable truths debunked because, to them, they are stale. Don’t we see much of that today? Let’s delve into the 4 areas that will be responsible for the confusion of many. Do you remember how confusing last week’s post was? So hard to read, right? Today, I’m going to lay it bare before you so you can realise the Truth.

    Philosophy

    Philosophy is a rabbit hole into nothingness. In the beginning, it seems like a wise discourse or a platform for the exchange of ideas and knowledge. What it basically is is the Gospel according to opinions. It’s what I call the spirit of the Greeks. People can clearly see Mammon, the spirit of Babylon. Some recognize the spirit of Medo-Persia, especially in areas where the Haman spirit chases down Christians with threats and murder. However, comfortable Christians have been rampaged by the spirit of the Greeks. Where this spirit dominates, the Gospel never faces fierce opposition. You can easily be allowed to share the Gospel like Paul was when he reached Athens. However, the Gospel is treated as simply one school of thought.

    Acts 17:21 says “all the Athenians and the foreigners who were there spent their time in nothing else but either to tell or to hear some new thing.” The science of opinions. No wonder people are easily offended nowadays. Unity is not when our opinions align and agree. People don’t want to know the truth anymore. Just want to hear what makes them feel good and strokes their ego. Cunningly-devised fables, if you will. As 1 Timothy 6:20 puts it, this is what people falsely call “knowledge”.

    The desire for something new instead of something fresh is what Scriptures call itchy ears in 2 Timothy 4:3. “God loves me? I already know that. That’s not new. Tell me something I haven’t heard before”. When they hear something new, weird and don’t understand yet, they then say, “wow, this is deep”. This is what pushes people to now invent new things from old truths in order to entertain their listeners. Don’t fall for the “go deeper” shenanigans. There’s always a fresh Word from God but never a totally new word from that which has already been established.

    This is what gave birth to “relative truth” rundown. One will say we all have our truths and that you have your truth and I have my truth. Some even say there’s no such thing as truth. Well, if that’s the case, then why should I believe you? It’s all mindless confusion. You follow it at your own peril. You will become a very wise fool. The gospel according to our opinions is responsible for why people want to hear what celebrities have to say. We have become so open-minded that historical facts seem not to exist anymore because it has become a matter of opinions. This is also the basics for the “I feel; therefore I am” movements. You feel like a girl even though you are a boy so you dress like a girl. Feelings over facts. It is the wisdom of men as Paul said 1 Corinthians 1 and 2. Speaking of wisdom, let’s talk about psychology.

    Psychology

    When we discussed the wisdom of the devil, we mentioned that there are 3 kinds of Wisdom; the Wisdom from above, the wisdom of this world and human wisdom. Even the foolishness of God is wiser than the wisdom of men. It is the foolishness of God to pick what men reject to confound the wise, not that God is actually foolish. Human wisdom does not guarantee anything. If you really are a Christian, let your way of thinking be solely based on Scripture. Psychology will only support what Scripture has already established. I say this because a lot of psychology and philosophy is preached from pulpits and what most Christians believe, they cannot even point to one Bible verse to support it.

    Do you believe in psychology quotes or do you quote Scriptures? This “follow your heart”, “do what you love”, “believe in yourself” etc is all psychology and philosophy. With time, someone will come and debunk it and propose a new theory that makes sense in another way. Today, psychology wants us to believe that hard work is not important and that we should work smart instead. In the next 10 years, working smart will be seen as archaic and wrong. Meanwhile, Scriptures offer principles that are established and proven, regardless of person, time or even place. It is dangerous to live your life based on what psychology is saying. It is like building in the sand. If you are indeed a Christian, the Scriptures should form the bedrock of all your beliefs and worldview.

    When someone speaks psychology and philosophy, they make sense because they speak to the mind. However, making sense and knowing the truth is not always the same. The truth does not always make sense, my dear. Whoever speaks truth speaks to the spirit. Jesus said His Words are spirit and life. In hard times, you can hold on to the Word of Truth in your spirit. All your knowledgeable psychology ideas will fall like a pack of cards because none of them will even come to mind in tough times. Motivational speakers speak to your mind. Bible teachers speak to your spirit. The latter makes a lasting impact. You can use mindfulness to achieve things in this life but you cannot use it to conquer sin, the world and Satan. It’s only the Word!

    Pseudoscience

    The foundation of science was laid by people who believed in God and looked forward to His inspirations. Many of them had visions and saw answers via dreams. Today, the average scientist wants you to believe otherwise. For crying out loud, Sir Isaac Newton had more notes from Bible Study than on science and mathematics combined. Much of what we call science is basically pseudoscience. Certain theories have been held in higher esteem than even the laws in science. Atheism wants it to look like it’s backed by the world of science. Meanwhile, everything in science screams of a Designer. Big bang theory is simply a theory. It was even first proposed by a Catholic priest, a theist. It has not been proven, and yet, it is always discussed as if it is.

    Also, why has the big bang theory become an atheist worldview of the beginning of life when it was proposed by a theist and hasn’t been proven? Are you telling me you knew what happened 300 million years ago but don’t believe in the resurrection of Jesus, something that happened just 2000 years ago and was confirmed by 500+ witnesses? Seriously? You really think we actually share a common ancestor as apes? Pseudoscience has reduced human beings to simply animals. It has stripped us of the “fearfully and wonderfully made” identity and scoffed us into believing we are insignificant compared to the rest of the universe. What will you choose? Christianity that gives you genuine purpose and hope, or a Pseudoscience that proposes that you’re just a random happening? It takes more blind faith to be an atheist. There’s too much make-believe.

    Also, Charles Darwin clearly stated that he could be wrong concerning his theory of evolution. He said if a complex organ could not be explained by gradual modifications, his theory “would absolutely break down”. Guess what? A complex organ cannot be objectively explained by gradual modifications. Scientists say the belief in God will influence their scientific experiments but atheism is equally a worldview that influences as much. We can create as humans but we weren’t created? We came from nothing and are evolving into nothingness? Oh wow! We don’t even know how life came from non-life but let’s pretend all of science is based evolution theory and the big bang theory.

    Is evolution real? Yes. However, the leap from “animals change slightly over time” to “all life is the result of mindless natural processes” is completely absurd and untrue. It’s an extrapolation of the adaptation of species. All this is targeted at eroding humanity from his true origin. Today, “intelligent” people believe in these things, making us look foolish for believing we are made in the image of God. Take heart! It is only a recent dilemma. About 99% of people who have ever lived believed in the existence of God. Don’t let them deceive you that we were indoctrinated to believe in God. There are isolated tribes in the world with no contact with our current civilization and yet, they believe in a Supreme Being. It is Charles Spurgeon who said “atheism is a strange thing. Even the devils never fell into that vice”.

    Perspectives

    In the realms of humans, nothing was made to be permanent. Everything has advantages and disadvantages. God can bring good out of something evil and something good can lead to something evil. That being said, don’t justify your wrong when God brings something good out of it. Also, perspectives have become the venue to erode absolutes and objectivity. When you do good, there are both advantages and disadvantages to it. The advantages or disadvantages are not what predetermines what is good or bad. Otherwise, what is good or bad becomes a matter of perspective rather than an objective morality upheld by God.

    Let me give you an example. It is good to give, not because of the advantages of giving (because there are also disadvantages), but because it is commanded by God. Goodness is based on God. Take God out of the picture and now, we are just left to determine what is good and bad from its advantages and disadvantages. Meanwhile, there are advantages and disadvantages of every action in this realm, whether good or bad. The fact that something gives you an advantage does not mean it is the right thing to do. Have you seen why modern societies are now finding it hard to determine what is good and what is not? Subjective morality is no morality at all. It will only be a matter of opinions until we accept pedophilia as an acceptable form of sexuality.

    Let’s Put Religion Aside?

    Have you ever heard someone say, “let’s put religion aside. We are humans first”. Really? We don’t know what religion is again, do we? It is because Christ taught and exemplified love for one another that I am compelled by His Grace to do the same. If we put that aside, what will be left? “Humanity first!”. True humanity is what Christ exemplified in the flesh. “Let’s put the Bible aside”. No, we aren’t. If we put all of this aside, wherein lies the core of my morality? We will go back to the Gospel according to opinions. Objective morality only exists because God. If we put God aside, everything in society will crumble.

    What they won’t tell you is that western civilization was built on Christian values. That’s why we aren’t seeing a sudden collapse just yet. Objective morality is so strong, people wish the well-being of others and generally, help is available; people are nice to each other, systems work and the needs of the underprivileged are addressed. All these are as a result of Christian values entrenched into the system. The dilemma is that African culture is built on idolatry so we are yet to fully let go of idolatrous influence and fully embrace Christian values. Thus, you will see atheist Westerners showing you more love than Christians in Africa. Don’t be confused from now onwards.

    If western civilization refuses to uphold and recognise the place of Christ in society, their civilization will collapse like many other civilizations in human history. This is not rocket science.

    The Scoffing spirit

    Scriptures, especially in Proverbs, point to the spirit of scorners and scoffers. You may not have noticed but once you understand it from here, search the Scriptures to see. It is one of the highest expressions of pride. In Psalm 1, we see a progression from ungodly to sinners to scornful. These are people who mock God and the things of God. They make you feel foolish for believing in something so simple. Not only that, they seem to have a way of making something great look small and insignificant. Pseudoscience have tried their best to paint humans as insignificant. Feminism have tried their best to paint men as insignificant. Modern societies have tried their best to paint being a housewife as someone insignificant. It is their nature to belittle things that actually form the core.

    Do you have a friend who always finds a way to devalue your achievements? They have this diction and mindset of seeing it from a different perspective in a bad light. The same is done to Judeo-Christianity perpetually throughout centuries. There’s a way the Gospel can be painted to look as though it is dumb. That’s why the Scriptures say “the message of the Cross is foolishness to those who are perishing”. If you give attention to such ideologies for long, you will follow the progression of the wicked in Psalm 1. You will walk, stand and eventually sit in the seat of the scornful. You will cast pearls before swine. You will treat what is Holy as a common thing, as Hebrews 10:29 puts it. Our minds are fragile; we believe something in accordance with how many times we hear it. Believe you me, if you give your attention to the scoffing spirit, you will become an evangelist for this religion of vanity. They will make a mockery of the simplicity of the Gospel but won’t tell you how empty their worldview is. Beware!

    Philosophy, psychology, perspectives and pseudoscience. If you give your attention to any of these four, you become knowledgeable but you will lack wisdom. Selah!

  • How To Understand Women

    How To Understand Women

    Life without females would be a pain in the ass, literally! Though they make situations a bit more difficult than they’re supposed to be, they make life much more interesting than it would have been. They add a little more extra everywhere. They may be a little more extreme but definitely quite distinct and super amazing. To be very honest, understanding them is a hoax but hey, at least I made an effort – like the gazillion number of men before me who successfully failed to crack the code.

    Women love attention

    We each have the desire to be loved and accepted. Abraham Maslow recognized this in his Pyramid of needs and identified it as a social need. No matter who you are, you belong to something. Women do have a strong sense of belonging. Though not every lady wants to be in the spotlight, they would love to have your attention provided you treat them right. The more you make them feel special – like they are the centre of the universe, like there is no other person but them – the more they’d love your company.

    Women care 1000% about diction

    They say, “Men are moved by what they see, but women are moved by what they hear.” There is an iota of truth in that. No matter how a lady likes you, she’d still want you to initiate; you’d still have to “sweet talk” with her; you’d still have to treat her right. Whether the lady will become offended or feel the love, it all depends on your choice of words. Once you make the wrong choice of word in a conversation, she’d expect that you apologize. She may even understand what you’re trying to say, but you’d still have to say it.

    Women love to be right

    Women are very intuitive. They listen to their intuition more than men do. Sometimes they just know that something is wrong beyond all reasonable doubt. Women may not always be right, but they are never wrong. She has all the right in the world to tell you that they tried to tell you yet you wouldn’t listen, but don’t dare try to tell her that. A wise man once said, “As a man, when you’re wrong, apologize; when you’re right, shut up.” A man who loves to always be right is seen by women as proud and egotistic. A woman who loves to be always right is simply being a woman.

    Women are empathic

    No matter how hard a woman becomes, she still has a soft spot. Of course, at the beginning she may a very nut to crack but spending time with her alone softens her heart towards you. The average lady is very emotional. Funny enough, if a guy had the same amount of mood swings a lady had in a single day, he’d be seen as psychopathic and may be on medication for having split personality disorders. When offended, she doesn’t get pissed, she gets mad. The psychophysiology of males and females are distinct. Women have a different kind of logic. When you talk to her, she listens to what is not being said. That’s why good mothers are good listeners.

    Women know what they DON’T want but may not know what they want

    There is nothing that two people in love cannot do except – of course – deciding where to eat. In a relationship, barely would a woman make the vital decisions.

    She’d tell you what to do, but if it fails she’d blame you because you took the decision. Women seldom know what they want yet they may complain bitterly about what they have.

    Whether it’s a house design or sex life, they’d express how they dislike the current state and then expect you to know what to do. They have a strong desire for what they want. When they see what they want, they’d know. Confused? Don’t worry. Women themselves know it’s confusing because they don’t even understand themselves. How can you know what you don’t want and still not know what you really want?

    What exactly do they want? That is a puzzle that the guy has to solve.

    Ladies, is this true? Guys, do you agree with me? Let’s see your comments. Will deffo have to continue with this. Hope you enjoyed it! Don’t forget to like and share. By the way, this is all meant to be fun. Please don’t be mad at me, O woman in thine period. I know all these doesn’t necessarily apply to all women, of course! Please don’t insult me. Thanks 😂

    I love you

  • Childishness vs. Child-likeness II

    Childishness vs. Child-likeness II

    Everyone has an inner child that we’d never lose as long as we live. No matter how old we grow, we’d still be someone’s child. But the expression of our child-ness is very important in every relationship. There are certain aspects of our inner child that certainly must grow, and then there are those aspects that we must never let go no matter how old we get.

    Adulthood is crowned with complex reasoning that leads to needless worry. As long as we don’t lose our child-likeness, life’s journey will be nothing short of amazing even in the most bizarre moments.

    CHILD-LIKENESS

    Child-like wonder

    A child will always ask the simplest of questions that have complex answers. According to a study in UK, curious kids ask a staggering 73 questions every day. “Why do people die?”, “how are babies born?”, “why is the sky blue?”, “how was I made?”. These questions are so simple that we think we have answers to them, but we usually don’t. Children are fascinated with the world around them and have all the time in the world to at least notice the minutest of details even though they cannot comprehend it.

    When we lose our child-like wonder, we think we basically know the answers to everything. We explain everything away instead of simply letting ourselves be amazed by it. We miss the simplicity of fascination and the acknowledgement of a mysterious beauty that leaves us in awe. Sometimes we feel we have so many things to worry about than to be fascinated by nature and our surroundings. Remember, God is in the detail. It is the little things that do count. If we overlook the little things and focus on the “big” things, we’d be disappointed more times than necessary. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

    Child-like trust

    Like children, we usually don’t know what’s best for us even when we think do. God wants us to trust him like a child trusts the parents. Even as parents, we generally don’t know what’s best for our kids. But we do know much more than kids do. We do know the consequences of their little actions – eating soap, playing with the kitchen knife, not doing their homework; the list goes on and on – and we try as much as we can to direct their paths and instruct them. God, on the other hand, knows all things. He is the only one big enough to see the bigger picture. The only way to trust God is with child-like trust.

    There’s going to be a lot of mess, shortcomings, failures, heartbreak, division and misunderstandings so difficult and unending on our individual journeys that we don’t see how it’s gonna get any better in the end. There’s gonna be times when we think God’s promises are simply outrageous and that His decisions are questionable. It’s only by child-like trust – “It is so because Mom says so: It is so because God says so” – can we continue to trust God in the midst of the storm.

    Child-like joy

    This world is so full of troubles, trials, tribulations and torments. Life is hard. Life has a way of throwing new problems at us while we solve the old ones. We can all relate with how tough life can get no matter who we are. Some situations are clearly out of our control; there is nothing we can do about it. Those are the situations we worry about the most. Worry is not a sign of care. To understand the main differences between worrying and caring about something, click on the link to read Caring Too Much Without Worrying.

    Not being worried also doesn’t mean pretending not to care. Having joy in the middle of the circumstance only comes after establishing your child-like trust in God. Happiness is based on the happenings of life, but joy can only be within. Once you have child-like joy, you stay true to yourself regardless of what happens.

    It’s been said time and again that it’s not about what happens to us that matters, – what happens to us is nothing new; it happens to other people too – it’s our reaction to what happens to us that really matters. Joy comes when we trust in something bigger than the circumstance. Joy is not pretending to be happy; joy is knowing that all things work together for good.

    What is more beautiful than being child-like; you’re innocent in thought, humble at heart, joyful in spirit and fascinated with nature. I believe life is not so much becoming who we are than unbecoming what we are not. We are all born a child and must remain like a child in order to be teachable, love fully, live freely and laugh wholeheartedly.

    I love you ❤️

  • Childishness vs. Child-likeness

    Childishness vs. Child-likeness

    We may all not be adults yet but we’ve all been a child before (or we still are). Children are such cute and adorable little Homo sapiens. They ask the most bizarre questions and say the most interesting things. Their smile is so warming and their countenance is flawless. Not to talk of their sweet-smelling and super soft hair.

    Nonetheless, they can be very annoying. They run all over the place and mess the whole place up. They break the glass, dirty the sofa, stain their clothes, spill the milk, pull your legs and scream on top of their voices.

    Inasmuch as we wanna just whack the shit outta them and make them sit still for just one minute of their lives, we love them wholeheartedly because their energy and vibes are so pure and rare. I believe there are some vital unconscious behaviours – what I call childishness and child-likeness – we can learn from them to make us more mature and live from within.

    Childishness

    People’s opinions of them mean the world to them

    As a child growing up, people’s opinions – especially about them – come together to form their perception of the world. Every word from someone who means something to them is swallowed hook, line and sinker and is believed without thought. Every further reality is built on this, and this reality, be it true or false, can be believed for decades.

    What can we learn from this? If you let people’s projected reality and flawed opinions get to you, you’re simply being vulnerable. It is okay to be vulnerable. Truth is, choose to believe yourself over everyone else. But in order to keep your ego in check so you don’t see yourself bigger than you really are, it is important that you surround yourself with people who believe the best about you and will enable you to see your own blind spots.

    Dependence on others for literally everything

    Children spend a lot of their time crying for toys and sweets. They worry their mothers to get them almost anything bright and colorful they see. Usually, it will be of no use to them but they want it. They are not the ones paying for it. When you don’t give them what they want, they throw temper tantrums and make you look really bad in public.

    What can we learn from this? Impulse buying fails to leave us even when we start to pay our own bills. Everything all of a sudden seem attractive within the few days of receiving salary. We feel we have a lot of money to spare – which is usually not the case – and go in for stuff we’ll feel stupid later for buying. It is costly to make an important decision based on mere impulse. Planning beforehand raises our chances of making the right decision at the right time. Otherwise, we’d have to depend on others every time we need something important.  

    Lack of urgency

    Infants lack the ability to even notice how dicey a particular situation is. The infant can see danger coming and may face it head-on. They will never be able to know how urgent Mummy has to go to work or how important it is for her to complete some tasks. All they do is that they make sure that they are the centre of the universe.

    What can we learn from this? Urgency is very important for beginning and completing a task before deadline. Truth is, if one lacks a sense of urgency, one will procrastinate everything that looks like work. Urgency helps us to put our shit together. Without it, we’ll shit immediately we feel like it like infants do. Infants lack a sense of urgency because they lack the capacity to understand the situation, unlike us. Once we sit down to comprehend what is at stake, a sense of urgency kicks in so as to get everything organized and to get things done. Thus, the vital need for retrospection.

    …to be continued

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