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In recent times, comparison has been viewed in a negative light. Comparison has been seen as a root cause of many negative emotions like jealousy, hatred among brothers, anxiety, and the likes. This has tarnished such a powerful telescope that our brain uses most times without our awareness. The question is not to avoid comparison. The question is, how can we harness Comparison? That is the mystery.

Comparison: Sense of Scale

Our intellectual understanding is fundamentally based on Comparison. If someone explains a concept you haven’t experienced or heard of, the person ought to use a simile or metaphor. Such figures of speech require comparing what is unknown to a similarly known phenomenon. In neuroplasticity, the brain enforces already-built neural pathways. Thus, learning the unknown by comparing it to the known enlightens the mind and strengthens the pathways. It’s like going to the village and talking about skyscrapers. Since they can’t relate, comparing it to an anthill by calling it an anthill but for humans make it relatable.

Comparison basically gives us a sense of scale. Is it big? Or too long? Is it tiring? Is it interesting? How do you know? Truth be told, the foundation of value is comparison. Comparison is the true denominator of essence. For something to lose its relevance, gain momentum, gain ground, or even shift suddenly; for us to perceive it is based on comparison. Without comparison, not only will our understanding be fragmented, but our perception will be null. Comparison is such a mystery.

One mystery to note is that regardless of what is being compared, there is a yardstick. Comparison is not the difference between two things on a scale. No! In fact, the scale is more important than what is being compared. This is where we get it wrong. We think the comparison is a negative thing when it was rather the scale we used in the comparison. If comparison was wrong, why was Jesus compared to the angels, Moses and Melchizedek in the book of Hebrews?

The sad thing is, we condemn comparison in theory and still compare in practice. We compare one child to another; one relationship to another, one parent to another, one job to another, one area to another. Comparison is a mystery we cannot avoid. The earlier we understand and wield it to our advantage, the better. A false scale is abominable unto the Lord. No scale at all is not a possibility.

Comparison: Standard of Judgment

The scale of comparison is called the yardstick or, even better, the standard. The standard is a means of judgement. Yes, the mystery of judgment is embedded in the mystery of comparison. Even God has a standard. His standard is His glory. That is what we all fell short of, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” How will God judge us? Do you think God will judge us equally? Not at all! He will judge us fairly. There’s a difference. It is important to know God judges you so you’ll know how to judge yourself.

1. The reason why God will need to judge us individually is because no scale exists to correctly compare one person to the other. If you’ve read up to this point and you think what I mean by writing all this is that we have to compare ourselves to others, you still don’t understand the mystery of comparison. Even God will not judge us based on others’ criteria or standards. Get this; He will judge us according to our abilities. Remember the parable of the talents? He gave one 5, the other 2 and another, 1. It’s not fair? What was the scale of measure? Why didn’t He just give everyone 3 each? Because he gave “each according to his ability”.

2. God will judge us according to His glorious standard. The only person who met this standard is Jesus. By accepting his sacrifice, we meet the standard of God. God’s standard is so high that there’s nothing we can do to measure up. Note that God didn’t lower His standard to accommodate us. He maintains His standard and continually raises us to His standard, not just in this lifetime but throughout eternity. That is another mystery for another time. This comparison to His glorious standard is a judgment for the attainment of His eternal rest; salvation. However, there’s another scale of measure.

3. God will judge us according to our measure. This comparison to our measure is a judgment of the attainment of the rewards for spiritual growth. He is bringing His reward to pay each man according to their deeds, Revelations 22:12 says. Matthew 7:2 explains it better; the standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. Back to the parable of the talents. God gave one man 5, not because He had only 5 to give. He has infinity. He gave the man only 5 because that is the man’s capacity to receive. How is going to judge that man? Is he expecting infinity from him? He’s judging the man based on the standard the man set for himself based on his capacity.

Based on all this, how then do you measure yourself? What should we compare ourselves to? I know all this is very loaded and will take meditation to understand. Measure yourself based on what God has given you to steward in any particular season of your life. This is the most accurate determiner of your measure because God will never give you more than you can handle. He doesn’t waste resources. He will also never give you any less than you can handle because He desires that you keep on increasing your capacity. Even His rewards are according to our measure.

Selah!

Let’s delve deeper into the perils of pre-marital sex debate, shall we? Beyond the immediate consequences, pre-marital sex can sow seeds of discontent and discord within the confines of marriage, leading to a myriad of issues that can strain even the strongest of relationships.

You’ve indulged in a variety of sexual experiences before tying the knot, each one offering a unique thrill and unexplainable sensations. Yet, when it comes to intimacy with your spouse, you find yourself longing for the excitement and novelty of past encounters. This phenomenon will erode the foundation of pleasure and intimacy within a marriage, as partners grapple with feelings of inadequacy and comparison. Engaging in pre-marital sex can create spiritual and emotional bonds with past partners, making it difficult to fully connect with your spouse on a deep and intimate level. These lingering ties can manifest as feelings of guilt, regret, or even longing for past relationships, hindering the development of a strong and healthy marital bond.

Let’s not forget about the very real and tangible risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Engaging in pre-marital sex increases the likelihood of contracting STDs, which can have devastating consequences for both individuals and their relationships. From the physical discomfort of symptoms to the emotional turmoil of navigating a diagnosis, STDs can wreak havoc on marital bliss, leading to mistrust, resentment, and even the breakdown of the relationship. Not to talk of unwanted pregnancies and abortions.

How about not sleeping with anyone else apart from the person you know you’re about to marry? It’s a slippery slope, my friends. What begins as a seemingly innocent exploration of physical pleasure can quickly spiral into a full-blown addiction, consuming one’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. Pre-marital sex can create neural pathways in the brain that reinforce addictive patterns, making it increasingly difficult to resist the urge to engage in risky sexual behaviours, even within the confines of marriage. Fornication has a way of weakening the boundaries that safeguard our relationships. When we disregard the sanctity of sexual intimacy and indulge in pre-marital sex, we open the door to a host of temptations and vulnerabilities, making us more susceptible to adultery and infidelity. It no longer becomes about the person but the act. Thus, anyone who can give you that deep lingering lustful soulful pleasure will draw you.

A lot of single people think marriage solves all their sexual problems. However, it takes the same grace to overcome both fornication and adultery. It’s basically the same sin in a different context. What waiting till marriage does is that it strengthens your loins for marriage so you would be faithful till death does you part. Thus, the fornication war is just a warm-up to the rest of the war with adultery. If fornication slaps you, it will leave a traceable mark for adultery to infect its bacteria into you, leaving your immune system of a boundary weaker and weaker.

Enough of this, I guess. The perils of pre-marital sex extend far beyond the immediate gratification of physical pleasure. From sexual dissatisfaction and soul ties to STDs, sexual addictions, and weakened boundaries, engaging in pre-marital sex can have profound and far-reaching consequences for anyone. It’s a sobering reminder that our choices today can shape the course of our lives tomorrow. The spirit of lust is one of the strongest in the universe. Don’t even entertain that conversation with the serpent because once you taste that forbidden fruit and “your eyes open”, not only will you shy away from God and attract a few curses here and there; but the consequences, although grace exists, will be paramount regardless. Flee and you’ll be free!

In our modern era, the concept of pre-marital sex is often met with a mix of acceptance and controversy. While some may argue for its liberation from societal constraints, a closer examination reveals the profound implications of engaging in such intimate relations outside the confines of marriage.

Let’s delve into the heart of the matter, shall we? Pre-marital sex, at its core, undermines the sanctity of commitment and the sacred bond between partners. It cheapens the act of intimacy, reducing it to a mere physical transaction devoid of emotional depth and spiritual significance. In a world where instant gratification reigns supreme, the fleeting pleasures of the flesh obscure the profound connection that can only be forged within the sanctity of marriage.

Trust is like an egg. So fragile yet so precious. When cracked, it can never return to its original state. There are only two reasons why we don’t trust someone; 1. Because we know them. 2. Because we don’t know them. It is also possible to trust someone in one area and not in the other. Once you and your partner couldn’t wait for the ice cream to be served and went in right away to scoop when no one was watching shows that you are not going to trust him/her around any person of the opposite sex in any candy shop. You don’t trust him/her because you know him/her. Do you trust your gossip partner to keep your secrets? Anyone who betrayed with you will betray you. Anyone who gossips with you will gossip about you. That is what pre-marital sex does. You’ve both lost your trust for each other without realising. Once your spouse is not home at a certain hour, your heart begins to race. If you and your spouse could hide in the dark and commit such an act, what stops your spouse from committing that act behind your back whenever things go south?

Even worse, you’re not going to trust your kids when they come of age. You knew what you were doing when you were their age, and although it’s not something you’re proud of at that time of your life, you are still going to act paranoid when your children are not in your view. If you want to trust your children to make the right decision even in your absence, trust yourself to make one today. This kind of behaviour produces two kinds of parents: strict parents and indifferent parents. Strict parents usually have a past they never disclose to their kids. Their overprotective behaviour is usually unsuccessful in stopping their children from tasting the forbidden fruit. Indifferent parents don’t care anymore and are usually still in their “hoe phase”. He is never there as a Dad and she doesn’t have it in her to be a Mom. Did all this start from a small mistake? Not necessarily. It started from a continuously made mistake one refused to admit.

Women, this paragraph is for you. Although men always say they want to test it for sexual compatibility before they put a ring on it, statistics show that men eventually settle with a virgin. It’s like using Toyota for a test drive and then buying the Benz. Men are insecure around women who have had a sexual relationship with someone else although women don’t mind if the guy just came out of a sexual relationship. Double standards! No guy wants a Jezebel or a Delilah, huh? So why are they playing the role of Ahab? It’s the stereotypical fallen nature of men. They think their promiscuity is natural and justifiable. Although they associate seduction with feminism, their ego is suddenly hurt when they realise you have more sexual experience. It takes two hands to clap, yet one hand is shamed in society. Don’t fall into this trap. You can’t change societal thinking in one lifetime. Even in Jesus’ time, they caught and brought only the adulterous woman as if she slept with a ghost. If you want that adulterous woman to be judged fairly, be like Jesus not the adulterous woman. You can’t solve a problem while still contributing to its stereotype.

One of the most powerful things about life is the paradox of knowledge. The more you know, the more you realise you don’t know. Once you think you know so much, it is proof of your naivety. As a lifelong learner, one of your hallmarks is looking back at your last decade and realising how naive you were. Once you are in your 20s, you realise how naive you were as a teenager and how your parents were not wrong after all. Same as your 30s. You realise how naive you were in your 20s. Same as your 40s and 30s. Once you don’t realise how naive you were in your last decade, it’s proof that you stopped learning somewhere along the way. Why I’m I saying all this? Because if you’re in your 20s having pre-marital sex, you’re naive. You didn’t think about the repercussions to any degree. You didn’t think about how it will affect you even in your 40s. You didn’t even learn any lessons from those who made that same mistake in decades past. You didn’t think about your family; the one you have and the one you’ll have. It was just some one-dimensional thinking and a hope that you two will live happily ever after.

Do you realise that no one is stopping you from having sex? Sex is not wrong. However, just like in biology, when you place a function out of its purpose, you abuse it. That is what perversion is. It’s the wrong version. Do you want to have sex? Great. So do almost all youthful people you know (although they may not want to admit it). That desire is not wrong. It’s natural. Yet, it does not make it right. It’s natural to feel like killing someone who stole all the money you have in the world. It does not make it right. How do you make it right then? Devoid of all the shame, guilt, emptiness and baseless justifications? God has our best interests always. He commanded us not to commit incest long before medical research revealed that incest has dire repercussions. He knows what’s best.

….to be continued. Kindly leave a comment.

It’s pretty weird that people boast about how how tired they are and how much they have suffered

I Sleep because I Can’t Come and Go and Come and Kill Myself

Christian

An epitome of nobility. A beacon of excellence. The true definition of a gentleman. Although his personality wanted him to fit in, his intellect and creativity made him stand out. Soft-spoken. A man of few words. His body language and diction exemplified godly intelligence. His intrinsic ability to simplify the complicated was a gift like no other. He was the best of us, living up time and again to his name.

Christian

We know for sure that even if he doesn’t wake up soon, we will see him once again in glory. But why do good people die? I’ve stopped asking myself that question. No amount of explanation can quench the emotion within. Solomon knew what he was saying when he said that it is better to go to funerals than parties.

[3] Sorrow is better than laughter, for sadness has a refining influence on us. [4] A wise person thinks a lot about death, while a fool thinks only about having a good time.

Ecclesiastes‬ ‭7:3‭-‬4‬ ‭NLT‬‬

For many of us, this is a turning point. A turning point to live right. A turning point to live out our purpose to the fullest. As young people, we think our lives are ahead of us. What is really ahead of us is death. It is inevitable. This life is short. So let Christian’s death bring life to you. A life of intentionality. A life of integrity. A life of excellence.

Christian

With tears in your eyes as you read this message, remember that you, also, are Christian. He lived in peace and died at peace. Therefore, I am not going to spend an iota of my short life worrying about needless casualties. I am going to live intentionally, living each day as if it were my last because it will most certainly be my last one day. May I embrace that day, knowing that I made the most of this short life.

Most of all, may I live life knowing fundamentally that I am a Christian. May that name be heavy on my heart and mean so much to me. May it be a reminder that although I may have chance to play, I don’t have time to waste. May we all die a Christian.

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[1] Good people pass away; the godly often die before their time. But no one seems to care or wonder why. No one seems to understand that God is protecting them from the evil to come. [2] For those who follow godly paths will rest in peace when they die.

Isaiah‬ ‭57:1‭-‬2‬ ‭NLT‬‬

In shadows cast by sorrow’s heavy veil,
Our hearts entwined, a bond that shall not fail.
Though tears may flow like rivers in the night,
Memories linger, casting gentle light.

In the tapestry of time, his spirit weaves,
A legacy of love that never leaves.
Through whispered winds and stars that brightly gleam,
His essence dances in the moonlit dream.

Grieve not alone, for in each other’s eyes,
His laughter echoes, and his spirit flies.
United in the solace that we share,
His memory blossoms, tender, and rare.

As petals fall, enclosing the earth’s embrace,
We find in unity, a sacred space.
For in our hearts, his presence shall reside,
An everlasting bond that death can’t hide.

Together, we shall navigate the pain,
A symphony of love, a gentle rain.
In this collective strength, we find our way,
Guided by his light, through night and day.

For every life, a thread in time’s grand art,
Though parting comes, love never does depart.

Just as he lived for Christ for his name’s sake,
May we live and die in peace till we awake

He wore nobility like a cloak of grace,
A beacon of excellence, a refined embrace.
In a world of conformity, he dared to be,
A true gentleman, his spirit flying free.

Few words, yet each held profound weight,
Soft-spoken echoes of a mind so great.
His intellect soared where others feared,
Creativity bloomed, and brilliance appeared.

In simplicity, he found his truest might,
Untangling complexities with pure insight.
A godly intelligence in every gaze,
His presence, a symphony of silent praise.

Rest in the peace you lived with. Till we meet again, Christian.

“The world as we know it is coming to an end”, says literally everybody who existed in a collapsing world system. Kingdoms have collapsed. Civilizations have been wiped out without a trace. World orders have been eradicated. This era is no different. We all see it. We all can sense it. It wouldn’t come as a surprise at all to the simpleton. The only shock will be how it took a different turn for the world as we know it to end.

Believe you me, world systems have died and have been reborn time and again. People don’t live forever, but concepts do outlive us. There is truly nothing new under the sun. It’s the same old concepts. Once in a while, there is a Mother Theresa who springs up; a Moses, a Messiah, a Mary. Then again, a Hitler also comes up. If you live for a few hundred years you will notice the trend. Same prophecies, same predicaments, different people.

To think we are any different from those in history by continuing in their abominations, hoping for a different predicament is a joke. Pride will destroy you just as much as it destroyed Hitler. To think that it is possible to sideline God and go about our lives is not a new concept, and just like Babel, many more things will divide us. This is the best and worst time to live in history, but it does worse than this. In fact, the more advanced progress we make in one area, the more other fundamental areas in society retrogress.

Smart energy, smart buildings, smartphones, smart TV, smart locks, smart cars, smart gadgets, smart analyses, smart everything yet the dumbest breed of humans exist today. I am not even joking. In 1 AD, humans were only 170 million. Lots of people were born, but lots of them died just as fast. So the population hardly grew. It was survival of the fittest. It took about 1800 years for the world population to reach 1 billion, yet it took only 12 years for the world population to increase from 6 billion to 7 billion.

Today, dumb people still find creative ways to foolishly die, but the majority still live to reproduce. That has made other powerful dumb breeds want to control the population. They do this by creating diseases, disasters and destruction, making it look as “natural” as possible. To them, it’s a natural selection, and their belief in eugenics makes them target certain races to slowly depopulate. All this gay propaganda is simply to reduce the population. A man and a woman can create a nation but the LGBTQ will not only reduce reproduction but also “produce” diseases.

This generation will fight World War 3 without even realising it. Mind you, while the World Cup was being played in Qatar, bombs were still hitting Ukraine. The Israel-Palestine war is World War 3 and has been fought for half a century, but who cares? Well, all of us…for now. It will be out of the news soon. We live in a great circus. A chaos. Mass entertainment makes up for the mass corruption of governments; an ancient Roman trick. Whenever there was political and economic unrest, the Emperor threw a circus at the Colosseum to entertain the people out of their misery. Perhaps, the human mind becomes confused when it sees that people can have fun while still living in abject misery. It’s not an irony.

Some things are slowly killing us – like processed food and drinks – and others are slowly destroying our minds. If you understand neuroplasticity, you’d see how mind control is so rampant. Music producers hit certain frequencies to control the mind and body to fall into the 7 deadly sins. Movies are slowly introducing us to new deadly concepts. The devil has always been secretive, and we know evil performs well in ignorance and darkness. But he changed his plan for the grand finale; let people know. Tell them via media in several ways. Eventually, they’ll get used to the idea. It’s called the Law of karmic retribution.

The mobile phone is one quick way to control the masses without calling for a gathering. I know by now, you know of cloning influential people in the world and using them for evil. This is an ancient trick the devil tried to pull with Moses (Jude 9). You also know of the creation of the New World Order, One-World Religion and all that crap. The government system has been made such that they can put our heads into a covenant/agreement not accepted by the entire populace. Legally, it is effective both spiritually and physically because we gave them such authority. Thus, parliaments of countries will begin to accept things that the people will demonstrate against but cannot overturn. Damn, they’re already doing that.

One really worse though unpopular predicament of this generation is its loss of sense of community. Already, a little over 50% of the world live in urban areas. By 2050, a whopping 68% of world’s population will be urbanized. Though not a bad thing in itself, urbanization takes away a sense of community. Community becomes society. Due to the numbers, we barely establish any connection with even our neighbours. Thus, we don’t care to treat each other like humans, because we barely know them and barely do we care. Barely! What you have is a society that is connecting huge pieces at the apex but losing on the fundamentals of living.

Our entire life is now built around our work. It even determines where we live. The pre-occupancy with work is worrying, as if nothing can be done about it. For generations, humans used to work for only their sustenance. Nobody worked for another’s benefit, except for foreigners. A man’s labour force consisted of only his family, including that foreigner. Since the industrial revolution, about 80% of the working population work for the 20%. Yet, the quality of life has drastically decreased. Why? It’s simple! Society priortizes work above life’s essentials like relationships and family.

The ambition of humans to build a city above the clouds to overthrow God has taken several forms throughout history. The seven deadly sins are all desires. Think about it! Once they take a hold of you, you simply lose sight of everything except your goal. We do not realize the opportunity cost that comes with our decisions. We sacrificed the environment for our “civilization”. Despite our engrossed knowledge base than any other generation in history, we destroy the environment at will, thinking it can’t possibly backfire.

Based on statistics, things are getting better. However, the essence of life is slowly gaining on us. Once you get away from all the city noise, put your phone down and take a long walk with no one around but birds chirping, the winds whistling and trees dancing, you will soon realized that you had been avoiding the sound of your own voice whispering from within. It had been whispering, “what is the essence of all these?”.