There is a thick line between what we need and what we can’t live without. Chemically, that has to do with the levels of dopamine. Drugs like sugar, coffee and spices produces dopamine which makes us feel good. But they don’t produce dopamine as such a high level that we can’t do without it. Yet we go back to it all the time. Just like soft porn.
Some can’t prepare food without spices. Others can’t eat food without drinking water afterwards. Those are habits that could be changed with time and preference.
Research
When I researched on porn and saw the stats, I realised it’s becoming epidemic. One research was to see what porn does to our brain. And when they searched for an American male teenager who had never watched internet porn before for studies, they found none. That was a shock to me. So I’ve provided a list of important info to help y’all willing to break this unhealthy habit.
One Huge Misconception
Watching porn does not make you sexually healthy. Watching porn will not stop when you marry or start having sex. It doesn’t even give you the right info about sex. Don’t believe those filthy lies. That is not how to feed your needs. Your sexual attraction needs are not a justification to indulge in porn. Pornography is an instant gratification activity. It does not satisfy you, it sucks from you.
Breaking the porn habit
1. First of all, don’t make it a priority to stop watching pornography. This may sound wrong but what is actually wrong is that the focus is still on porn. It is like me saying, “don’t imagine a white bear.” You have already subconsciously imagined it. It is called the white bear effect. I’m not saying don’t face the problem head-on. All I’m saying is, fighting a problem that has become a part of you fights back harder. It rather needs to be starved. Dr. K V Anand said it better;
2. Your belief in porn addiction makes things worse. The label of “porn addict” causes depression but porn watching doesn’t.
People who believe themselves to be porn addicts need help with understanding what their use of porn means, and why they may have problems around their sexuality. They deserve help unpacking the conflicts between their sexual desires, and the moral/religious society around them. They also need help to understand how and why porn use is not an addiction, and how viewing themselves as a porn addict may affect their self-image and emotional health. These men (and some women) deserve help in understanding their sexuality and their porn use. They don’t need the shame and stigma that comes along with the “addiction” label.
3. One major reason why people who don’t want to watch porn, go back and even watch it in excess is boredom. Whenever you are bored, you do what subconsciously makes you feel good instantly. This is because boredom is unhealthy and health is multi-dimensional. Our body needs fun. Our soul needs adventure. Our spirit needs intimacy. Stop blaming your old man which is dead or even the devil. Change the cycle.
4. Life functions because it is in an ecosystem. Society thrives on culture. Our body has a rhythm. Even the weather has a pattern. Pornography is not the problem. It is the fruit of the problem. Whether someone is addicted to drugs or porn or any form of perversion, it is because they didn’t understand their inner needs and misunderstood their emotions.
Change the pattern
Set in motion another chain, another culture, another ecosystem. Don’t focus on stopping. Don’t count the days you didn’t watch it. Don’t entertain those thoughts in your head to watch a little bit. Rewire your brain. Renew your mind. Do what you have always loved to do as a child. Don’t be afraid to be bored. Don’t entertain boredom either.
Everything all around us is calling for our attention, but when you change what you are aware of, you change your reality. People who see sin everywhere make sin omnipresent in their minds. People who see love everywhere see the omnipresence of God. Develop healthy habits that make you spiritually, mentally and physically healthy.
Habits are not difficult to develop if we look at it from this perspective; we always develop new habits when we renew the old ones. Habits are set in motion with our minds not our wills. Don’t fight your habits, consciously change them. Whatever you force yourself to do cannot really become a habit until we set it in motion with our minds. Easier said than done but hey..you gotta start from somewhere. It is time to live at your utmost potential and be your best self. Greatness is within us and ahead of us. You can start off with a good read by Derek Doepker
Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
II Timothy 2:22 NKJV
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