Jesus the Christ: this is the Gospel

Christ is the visible image of the invisible God, the firstborn over all creation. For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created through him and for him. He is before all things, and in him all things hold together. And he is the head of the body, the church; he is the beginning and the firstborn from among the dead, so that in everything he might have the supremacy. For God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in him, and through him to reconcile to himself all things, whether things on earth or things in heaven, by making peace through his blood, shed on the cross.


For in Christ all the fullness of the Godhead lives in bodily form, and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. He is the head over every power and authority. In him you were also circumcised with a circumcision not performed by human hands. Your whole self ruled by the flesh was put off when you were circumcised by Christ, having been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through your faith in the working of God, who raised him from the dead.

When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made you alive with Christ. He forgave us all our sins, having canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemned us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross. And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross.

As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath. But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.

And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.



Remember that at that time you were separate from Christ, excluded from citizenship in Israel and foreigners to the covenants of the promise, without hope and without God in the world. But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near by the blood of Christ. For he himself is our peace, who has made the two groups one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility, by setting aside in his flesh the law with its commands and regulations. His purpose was to create in himself one new humanity out of the two, thus making peace, and in one body to reconcile both of them to God through the cross, by which he put to death their hostility.

He came and preached peace to you who were far away and peace to those who were near. Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of his household, built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, with Christ Jesus himself as the chief cornerstone. In him the whole building is joined together and rises to become a holy temple in the Lord. And in him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit.

‭In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross! Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

‭For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God. He was put to death in the body but made alive in the Spirit. After being made alive, he went and made proclamation to the imprisoned spirits— to those who were disobedient long ago when God waited patiently in the days of Noah while the ark was being built. In it only a few people, eight in all, were saved through water, and this water symbolizes baptism that now saves you also—not the removal of dirt from the body but the pledge of a clear conscience toward God. It saves you by the resurrection of Jesus Christ, who has gone into heaven and is at God’s right hand—with angels, authorities and powers in submission to him.

Comparison in African Homes: Embracing Authenticity among Children

From the moment we take our first steps, we are compared to our siblings, cousins, and even neighbours’ children. “Why can’t you be more like your sister?” or “Look at how well your friend’s son is doing in school.” These phrases, though well-intentioned, often sow seeds of self-doubt and insecurity in the hearts of young ones.

Yet, amidst the challenges posed by comparison, there lies a resilience born out of necessity. Growing up in an environment where comparison is the norm toughens us, especially after we realise that the comparison made was false. From then on, we don’t rely on external validations. We realise opinions are different from facts, and we embrace our authenticity rather than trying to be people-pleasers. Of course, that usually comes off as rebellion and stubbornness until we are accepted for what we are as young adults.


Take, for instance, the story of Ade and his younger brother Tunde. From a young age, Ade was always compared to his brother – academically, athletically, and even in terms of behaviour. While this constant comparison often left Ade feeling inadequate, it also fueled his determination to succeed. He pushed himself harder, studying late into the night and practising tirelessly on the football field. In the end, Ade’s resilience paid off, and he earned a scholarship to university, breaking free from the cycle of comparison that once held him captive.



However, this ritual of comparison – although had good intentions and produced good results in the long run – is still a wrong way of nurturing, with all due respect. While it may have instilled resilience in us, it has also perpetuated a culture of judgment and unrealistic expectations. Many of us still carry the scars of childhood comparisons, battling feelings of unworthiness and inadequacy well into adulthood. Also, we grow up trying to prove a point when there should be no point to prove to anyone but ourselves.

Being a substantial part of childhood traumas, not everyone overcomes its negative insinuations. Some parents may think they may have done their best when all the children may have in their hearts are resentments from needless comparisons that produced engraved episodes of emotional abuse and shouts, punishments, petty complaints, lack of mercy and appreciation of efforts. These episodes play from time to time when triggered by certain situations. These very episodes produce a feeling of low self-esteem, self-hate, timidity, low self-confidence, and inaction.

As we look to the future, we must break free from the shackles of comparison and embrace a new paradigm of acceptance and encouragement. The next generation deserves to do better because they know better – our children deserve to grow up in an environment where their worth is not measured against that of others but celebrated for its uniqueness. Imagine a home where siblings support and uplift each other, and where parents nurture their children’s talents and aspirations without pitting them against one another. That is the building block to a community where success is not defined by external standards but by personal growth and fulfilment.



It is up to us, the torchbearers of change, to create such a world for the generations to come. Remember, children can easily identify when they are being discriminated against. They can sense their lack of favour, and instead of working to please you, they affirm all the weaknesses you shout at them. We must lead by example, challenging the status quo and fostering an environment of empathy and support. It starts now. Let us celebrate each other’s achievements, big and small, and lift each other in times of struggle.

In doing so, we not only break free from the chains of comparison but also pave the way for a brighter, more compassionate future. Let us be the change we wish to see in our homes, our communities, and our continent. Only then can we truly thrive, unburdened by the weight of comparison and liberated to reach our fullest potential.

The Mystery of Comparison II

In the last post, I emphatically stated that when something is to lose its relevance, gain momentum, gain ground, or even shift suddenly; for us to perceive it is based on comparison. Without comparison, not only will our understanding be fragmented, but our perception will be null. What is that all about? Discernment.

Discernment

Discernment is when your spirit weighs the backing and notices a difference. There’s a reason why John said we should test every spirit. Our physical brain, mental mind, and spiritual conscience already run tests. Some signs are clear to differentiate because evil has a look, taste, feel, smell, and touch. However, when the enemy disguises himself as the angel of light, anyone walking by sight will fall for his deception. All physical and soulish comparisons will fail because he can pass all such perception tests. However, he can not hide the darkness of his heart.

Anyone who continually trains their senses to recognize the difference between good and evil have matured. I’m not the one saying this. Check Hebrews 5:14. During the perception test, your spirit compares the backing spirit with the Spirit in you. It is a skill and requires training. Discernment needs sharpening because all lies have an iota of truth in them. To weigh the spirit backing activities, doctrines, movements, systems, territories, instructions, etc is not something that can be extensively taught to full understanding; you have to experience it to fully grasp it. This is why all these are a mystery. In fact, the mystery of comparison has an underlying mystery; the mystery of measure.

Difference

We also spoke about the sense of judgement last week. Speaking on differences, it is the mystery of comparison revealed via judgement that brings about the clear difference between those on God’s side and those on the evil side. Malachi 3:17 explains it well; “They will be my people,” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “On the day when I act in judgement, they will be my own special treasure. I will spare them as a father spares an obedient child. Then you will again see the difference between the righteous and the wicked, between those who serve God and those who do not.” It is the kind of judgement where God judges all based on His standard; His revealed glory. The same stone will be a stepping stone to the righteous but a stumbing block to the wicked. This is what will happen on the general Judgement day.

The same water that hardens an egg softens the potato. If you have not read Number 16, now is the good time to read it. When God’s glory is revealed, all who are not on the Lord’s side are automatically consumed. God is pure and not a tiny amount of uncleanness can stand in His holy presence as Habakkuk 1:13 says. People are asking for God to reveal Himself/His Glory, and they don’t know what they are asking. That revealed Glory is a consuming fire; if you’re an ore, the discipline burns out all the impurities, and you are left as pure gold. This is why God moves us from glory to glory, gradually revealing His Glory in a measure we have the capacity to endure. Paul said that “we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.”

Dani-El

Because people do not understand this Mystery of Glory, they think the God of the Old Testament is different. No, He has not changed. It is the sacrifice of Jesus that has made us qualified. Jesus has made us friends with God so God’s revealed Glory will not consume as like it will do His enemies. God is still the same. That is why the writer of Hebrews admonishes us to “be thankful and please God by worshipping Him with holy fear and awe; for our God is a consuming fire”. This explains one major reason why we can not go to the Father except through Jesus. Try going to the Father with your self-righteousness and see if you can endure the fulness of His Glory. And oh, if you think that we have “lost the glory of God” in our gatherings today, it’s even a sign of mercy. If we haven’t surrendered to Jesus and consecrated our full self (spirit, soul, and body), we will be devoured in God’s presence. In this last days, God has promised to pour out His judgement. “‭This means that all of creation will be shaken and removed, so that only unshakable things will remain.”

Judgement Day is a great and terrible day, as Isaiah puts it. Great for those on God’s side. It’s terrible for the others. Does the idea of Judgement Day terrify you? Then you really need to surrender all to Christ. Because the saints in Heaven cannot wait for that day as Revelations 6:10 tells us. For those on God’s side, we are going to experience the fulness of His Glory, for “he has not yet shown us what we will be like when Christ appears. But we do know that we will be like him, for we will see him as he really is.”

The Mystery of Comparison

In recent times, comparison has been viewed in a negative light. Comparison has been seen as a root cause of many negative emotions like jealousy, hatred among brothers, anxiety, and the likes. This has tarnished such a powerful telescope that our brain uses most times without our awareness. The question is not to avoid comparison. The question is, how can we harness Comparison? That is the mystery.

Comparison: Sense of Scale

Our intellectual understanding is fundamentally based on Comparison. If someone explains a concept you haven’t experienced or heard of, the person ought to use a simile or metaphor. Such figures of speech require comparing what is unknown to a similarly known phenomenon. In neuroplasticity, the brain enforces already-built neural pathways. Thus, learning the unknown by comparing it to the known enlightens the mind and strengthens the pathways. It’s like going to the village and talking about skyscrapers. Since they can’t relate, comparing it to an anthill by calling it an anthill but for humans make it relatable.

Comparison basically gives us a sense of scale. Is it big? Or too long? Is it tiring? Is it interesting? How do you know? Truth be told, the foundation of value is comparison. Comparison is the true denominator of essence. For something to lose its relevance, gain momentum, gain ground, or even shift suddenly; for us to perceive it is based on comparison. Without comparison, not only will our understanding be fragmented, but our perception will be null. Comparison is such a mystery.

One mystery to note is that regardless of what is being compared, there is a yardstick. Comparison is not the difference between two things on a scale. No! In fact, the scale is more important than what is being compared. This is where we get it wrong. We think the comparison is a negative thing when it was rather the scale we used in the comparison. If comparison was wrong, why was Jesus compared to the angels, Moses and Melchizedek in the book of Hebrews?

The sad thing is, we condemn comparison in theory and still compare in practice. We compare one child to another; one relationship to another, one parent to another, one job to another, one area to another. Comparison is a mystery we cannot avoid. The earlier we understand and wield it to our advantage, the better. A false scale is abominable unto the Lord. No scale at all is not a possibility.

Comparison: Standard of Judgment

The scale of comparison is called the yardstick or, even better, the standard. The standard is a means of judgement. Yes, the mystery of judgment is embedded in the mystery of comparison. Even God has a standard. His standard is His glory. That is what we all fell short of, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” How will God judge us? Do you think God will judge us equally? Not at all! He will judge us fairly. There’s a difference. It is important to know God judges you so you’ll know how to judge yourself.

1. The reason why God will need to judge us individually is because no scale exists to correctly compare one person to the other. If you’ve read up to this point and you think what I mean by writing all this is that we have to compare ourselves to others, you still don’t understand the mystery of comparison. Even God will not judge us based on others’ criteria or standards. Get this; He will judge us according to our abilities. Remember the parable of the talents? He gave one 5, the other 2 and another, 1. It’s not fair? What was the scale of measure? Why didn’t He just give everyone 3 each? Because he gave “each according to his ability”.

2. God will judge us according to His glorious standard. The only person who met this standard is Jesus. By accepting his sacrifice, we meet the standard of God. God’s standard is so high that there’s nothing we can do to measure up. Note that God didn’t lower His standard to accommodate us. He maintains His standard and continually raises us to His standard, not just in this lifetime but throughout eternity. That is another mystery for another time. This comparison to His glorious standard is a judgment for the attainment of His eternal rest; salvation. However, there’s another scale of measure.

3. God will judge us according to our measure. This comparison to our measure is a judgment of the attainment of the rewards for spiritual growth. He is bringing His reward to pay each man according to their deeds, Revelations 22:12 says. Matthew 7:2 explains it better; the standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. Back to the parable of the talents. God gave one man 5, not because He had only 5 to give. He has infinity. He gave the man only 5 because that is the man’s capacity to receive. How is going to judge that man? Is he expecting infinity from him? He’s judging the man based on the standard the man set for himself based on his capacity.


Based on all this, how then do you measure yourself? What should we compare ourselves to? I know all this is very loaded and will take meditation to understand. Measure yourself based on what God has given you to steward in any particular season of your life. This is the most accurate determiner of your measure because God will never give you more than you can handle. He doesn’t waste resources. He will also never give you any less than you can handle because He desires that you keep on increasing your capacity. Even His rewards are according to our measure.

Selah!

Anxiety

Imagine Tiara, sitting in her car before a big job interview, her palms sweaty and her heart racing with worry about whether she’ll impress the interviewers. Meanwhile, David paces back and forth in his living room, anxious about an upcoming presentation at work, his mind buzzing with thoughts of what could go wrong. Across town, Maria lies awake in bed, her thoughts consumed by fears of failing her upcoming exams, her stomach churning with nervousness. At the same time, John sits in the waiting room of the doctor’s office, his anxiety mounting as he waits for test results, his mind racing with worst-case scenarios. Meanwhile, Emily clutches her phone, anxiously awaiting a reply to a message she sent hours ago, her thoughts consumed by worry about whether she said the right thing.

As the sun sets on another day, Tina finds herself tossing and turning in bed, unable to shake the gnawing anxiety about what tomorrow holds. Will she be able to find a job in this uncertain economy, or will she be left struggling to make ends meet? Meanwhile, Guvna sits at his desk, staring blankly at his computer screen, his mind consumed by worries about the future of his relationship. Will he and his partner be able to overcome their differences and build a life together, or are they doomed to drift apart? Across town, Diane frets over her children’s future, her heart heavy with concern about whether she’s doing enough to prepare them for the challenges that lie ahead. And as Jones drives home from work, his mind races with thoughts of looming deadlines and mounting responsibilities, his anxiety about the future threatening to overwhelm him. Finally, Efua sits alone in her apartment, her thoughts consumed by uncertainty about her career path and whether she’ll ever find true fulfillment and happiness.

Anxiety is everywhere. It’s a symptom of many mental disorders yet, not a single soul on earth goes a day without experiencing it. Beyond the clinical definitions and psychological analyses, anxiety is a deeply complex and multifaceted experience that permeates every aspect of our lives. From the mundane worries of daily existence to the existential dread that gnaws at our very core, anxiety is an ever-present companion on the journey of life.

Philosophically speaking, anxiety can be viewed through the lens of existentialism – a philosophical school of thought that grapples with the fundamental questions of human existence. According to existentialist thinkers like Søren Kierkegaard and Jean-Paul Sartre, anxiety arises from the realization of our freedom and responsibility in a world devoid of inherent meaning or purpose. In other words, anxiety stems from the existential angst of navigating the vast and often overwhelming expanse of human existence without any clear guideposts or assurances.

Yet, amidst the existential tumult of anxiety, there exists a glimmer of hope – the steadfast assurance of divine providence and the unwavering presence of a higher power. For those who place their trust in God, anxiety becomes not a burden to bear alone, but a catalyst for deeper spiritual growth and transformation. As the psalmist declares, “Cast your burden upon the Lord, and He shall sustain you” (Psalm 55:22). In trusting God, we relinquish our grip on the illusion of control and surrender to the divine wisdom that transcends our limited understanding.



But trusting God in the midst of anxiety is easier said than done. It requires a profound shift in perspective – a willingness to embrace uncertainty and relinquish our desperate grasp for certainty and security. It means accepting that we are not in control of the outcome, but entrusting our fears and worries into the hands of a loving and compassionate Creator who knows our every need.

In the words of philosopher Blaise Pascal, “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Perhaps, then, the mystery of anxiety lies not in its eradication, but in our ability to embrace it as an integral part of the human experience. By cultivating a deep sense of trust in God and leaning into the existential uncertainty of life, we can transform anxiety from a source of despair into a catalyst for spiritual awakening and inner peace.

I’m not saying don’t be anxious. You already know that but you haven’t been able to stop yourself from being anxious. All I’m saying is, the next time you think about the future of the country, the instability of your finances, how you’re going to make it in life or why you can’t seem to make the right decisions; instead of laying up all night, crying all over your pillow, beating yourself down and comparing yourself to others, turn your anxiety into prayer.



In the end, anxiety is a part of life, but it doesn’t have to control us. By embracing faith and trusting in God’s Word, we can find comfort and strength to face whatever comes our way.

What is Wrong with Pre-marital Sex? Part III

Let’s delve deeper into the perils of pre-marital sex debate, shall we? Beyond the immediate consequences, pre-marital sex can sow seeds of discontent and discord within the confines of marriage, leading to a myriad of issues that can strain even the strongest of relationships.

You’ve indulged in a variety of sexual experiences before tying the knot, each one offering a unique thrill and unexplainable sensations. Yet, when it comes to intimacy with your spouse, you find yourself longing for the excitement and novelty of past encounters. This phenomenon will erode the foundation of pleasure and intimacy within a marriage, as partners grapple with feelings of inadequacy and comparison. Engaging in pre-marital sex can create spiritual and emotional bonds with past partners, making it difficult to fully connect with your spouse on a deep and intimate level. These lingering ties can manifest as feelings of guilt, regret, or even longing for past relationships, hindering the development of a strong and healthy marital bond.

Let’s not forget about the very real and tangible risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Engaging in pre-marital sex increases the likelihood of contracting STDs, which can have devastating consequences for both individuals and their relationships. From the physical discomfort of symptoms to the emotional turmoil of navigating a diagnosis, STDs can wreak havoc on marital bliss, leading to mistrust, resentment, and even the breakdown of the relationship. Not to talk of unwanted pregnancies and abortions.

How about not sleeping with anyone else apart from the person you know you’re about to marry? It’s a slippery slope, my friends. What begins as a seemingly innocent exploration of physical pleasure can quickly spiral into a full-blown addiction, consuming one’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. Pre-marital sex can create neural pathways in the brain that reinforce addictive patterns, making it increasingly difficult to resist the urge to engage in risky sexual behaviours, even within the confines of marriage. Fornication has a way of weakening the boundaries that safeguard our relationships. When we disregard the sanctity of sexual intimacy and indulge in pre-marital sex, we open the door to a host of temptations and vulnerabilities, making us more susceptible to adultery and infidelity. It no longer becomes about the person but the act. Thus, anyone who can give you that deep lingering lustful soulful pleasure will draw you.

A lot of single people think marriage solves all their sexual problems. However, it takes the same grace to overcome both fornication and adultery. It’s basically the same sin in a different context. What waiting till marriage does is that it strengthens your loins for marriage so you would be faithful till death does you part. Thus, the fornication war is just a warm-up to the rest of the war with adultery. If fornication slaps you, it will leave a traceable mark for adultery to infect its bacteria into you, leaving your immune system of a boundary weaker and weaker.

Enough of this, I guess. The perils of pre-marital sex extend far beyond the immediate gratification of physical pleasure. From sexual dissatisfaction and soul ties to STDs, sexual addictions, and weakened boundaries, engaging in pre-marital sex can have profound and far-reaching consequences for anyone. It’s a sobering reminder that our choices today can shape the course of our lives tomorrow. The spirit of lust is one of the strongest in the universe. Don’t even entertain that conversation with the serpent because once you taste that forbidden fruit and “your eyes open”, not only will you shy away from God and attract a few curses here and there; but the consequences, although grace exists, will be paramount regardless. Flee and you’ll be free!

What is Wrong with Pre-marital Sex? Part II

In our modern era, the concept of pre-marital sex is often met with a mix of acceptance and controversy. While some may argue for its liberation from societal constraints, a closer examination reveals the profound implications of engaging in such intimate relations outside the confines of marriage.

Let’s delve into the heart of the matter, shall we? Pre-marital sex, at its core, undermines the sanctity of commitment and the sacred bond between partners. It cheapens the act of intimacy, reducing it to a mere physical transaction devoid of emotional depth and spiritual significance. In a world where instant gratification reigns supreme, the fleeting pleasures of the flesh obscure the profound connection that can only be forged within the sanctity of marriage.

Trust is like an egg. So fragile yet so precious. When cracked, it can never return to its original state. There are only two reasons why we don’t trust someone; 1. Because we know them. 2. Because we don’t know them. It is also possible to trust someone in one area and not in the other. Once you and your partner couldn’t wait for the ice cream to be served and went in right away to scoop when no one was watching shows that you are not going to trust him/her around any person of the opposite sex in any candy shop. You don’t trust him/her because you know him/her. Do you trust your gossip partner to keep your secrets? Anyone who betrayed with you will betray you. Anyone who gossips with you will gossip about you. That is what pre-marital sex does. You’ve both lost your trust for each other without realising. Once your spouse is not home at a certain hour, your heart begins to race. If you and your spouse could hide in the dark and commit such an act, what stops your spouse from committing that act behind your back whenever things go south?

Even worse, you’re not going to trust your kids when they come of age. You knew what you were doing when you were their age, and although it’s not something you’re proud of at that time of your life, you are still going to act paranoid when your children are not in your view. If you want to trust your children to make the right decision even in your absence, trust yourself to make one today. This kind of behaviour produces two kinds of parents: strict parents and indifferent parents. Strict parents usually have a past they never disclose to their kids. Their overprotective behaviour is usually unsuccessful in stopping their children from tasting the forbidden fruit. Indifferent parents don’t care anymore and are usually still in their “hoe phase”. He is never there as a Dad and she doesn’t have it in her to be a Mom. Did all this start from a small mistake? Not necessarily. It started from a continuously made mistake one refused to admit.

Women, this paragraph is for you. Although men always say they want to test it for sexual compatibility before they put a ring on it, statistics show that men eventually settle with a virgin. It’s like using Toyota for a test drive and then buying the Benz. Men are insecure around women who have had a sexual relationship with someone else although women don’t mind if the guy just came out of a sexual relationship. Double standards! No guy wants a Jezebel or a Delilah, huh? So why are they playing the role of Ahab? It’s the stereotypical fallen nature of men. They think their promiscuity is natural and justifiable. Although they associate seduction with feminism, their ego is suddenly hurt when they realise you have more sexual experience. It takes two hands to clap, yet one hand is shamed in society. Don’t fall into this trap. You can’t change societal thinking in one lifetime. Even in Jesus’ time, they caught and brought only the adulterous woman as if she slept with a ghost. If you want that adulterous woman to be judged fairly, be like Jesus not the adulterous woman. You can’t solve a problem while still contributing to its stereotype.

One of the most powerful things about life is the paradox of knowledge. The more you know, the more you realise you don’t know. Once you think you know so much, it is proof of your naivety. As a lifelong learner, one of your hallmarks is looking back at your last decade and realising how naive you were. Once you are in your 20s, you realise how naive you were as a teenager and how your parents were not wrong after all. Same as your 30s. You realise how naive you were in your 20s. Same as your 40s and 30s. Once you don’t realise how naive you were in your last decade, it’s proof that you stopped learning somewhere along the way. Why I’m I saying all this? Because if you’re in your 20s having pre-marital sex, you’re naive. You didn’t think about the repercussions to any degree. You didn’t think about how it will affect you even in your 40s. You didn’t even learn any lessons from those who made that same mistake in decades past. You didn’t think about your family; the one you have and the one you’ll have. It was just some one-dimensional thinking and a hope that you two will live happily ever after.

Do you realise that no one is stopping you from having sex? Sex is not wrong. However, just like in biology, when you place a function out of its purpose, you abuse it. That is what perversion is. It’s the wrong version. Do you want to have sex? Great. So do almost all youthful people you know (although they may not want to admit it). That desire is not wrong. It’s natural. Yet, it does not make it right. It’s natural to feel like killing someone who stole all the money you have in the world. It does not make it right. How do you make it right then? Devoid of all the shame, guilt, emptiness and baseless justifications? God has our best interests always. He commanded us not to commit incest long before medical research revealed that incest has dire repercussions. He knows what’s best.

….to be continued. Kindly leave a comment.

What is Wrong with Pre-marital Sex? Part I

In our world today, many established ideologies have received scrutiny and backlash for being archaic and restrictive. Since the turn of the Enlightenment age, even the concept of God has been attacked and somewhat rescinded; how much more are the so-called “commandments of God”? This post is not for the highly religious who are quick to draw conclusions, although their actions and words don’t even tally lol. This is for the intellectuals who are not quick to answer questions but question answers. The line between good and bad is seen as subjective because the yardstick has been given to everyone to decide what is right in their own eyes. However, using the pragmatic approach, let’s see if the road is still clear without a moral compass.

Sexual Freedom


The opposite of freedom is not always bondage. After all, a man must be bound to something. With more freedom comes less safety. Therefore, a boundary is not a limitation. It’s a safety measure. To be totally free is the biggest deception. If you are free to do so, you should be free to stop. Reality unveils when you realise that you cannot stop. After the deception of “why should I stop?” has fallen from your eyes, you’d realise that you were enraptured, not by boundless love, but by bounding lust. You only enjoy the moment and the dark emotions thereafter are nothing to write home about. So these dark emotions are avoided by further indulging in the lustful pleasure. Very soon, you’ll realise it’s empty and you want something more. It only goes downhill from here. See, you are not the first person in the world to go down this path. I know the path is dark and you don’t realise that you are living in ignorance but hey, try switching on the light and see how many demons attack you. These demons are not your friends. Don’t play with lust. Stop entertaining yourself with the movies she projects in the thoughts of your mind. She has destroyed many. You are just a statistic to her.

Boundary or Limitation?


Believe it or yes, sex is very powerful. It is literally a ritual. A portal is unlocked, an exchange takes place and chemistry is solidified. To not create a safety measure around this is absurd. Even legos come with instructions. Blaming God for having a rule exposes your ignorance. Even married couples break up and are torn apart by divorce; how much more you and your accomplice? When you haven’t done something before, there’s a natural resistance to it. However, we know that soulish desires are stronger than natural resistances. When one pursues pleasure without purpose, activities lose meaning. Before you know, you may have had multiple partners already. Once you attack the very foundation of this safety measure, then there’s no need to defend other safety measures; sleeping with multiple partners, sleeping with same sex, sleeping with animals, sleeping with children, sleeping with dead people etc.

Responsibilities & Privileges

If you cannot deal with the consequences of a particular action, you have no business venturing into it. In other words, if you can’t handle the responsibilities, the privileges are not meant for you. It is a disclaimer of life. You are solely responsible for your actions even if you are ignorant of the detriment. Ignorance of the law is no excuse.

One may argue that it’s not pre-marital if there’s no plan for the “marital”. It’s absolutely normal to question the foundation of marriage since it is the basics for which pre-marital sex is sin. Even if you dislike the idea of a covenant, the tradition and/or the ceremony of marriage, it is and has always been a necessity. You didn’t give birth to the one who want to sleep with. Marriage simply becomes an ordinance before all the parties belonging; God, the families and the law. You are at fault if you simply take someone’s drink in the fridge without their knowledge or permission; how much more their son or daughter. If you are not planning to get married the traditional way, it still doesn’t exempt you from making the parties involved formally know. That formal signature is what makes it essentially marriage, signifying that you’re mature enough to handle the responsibilities and enjoy the privileges.

…..to be continued. Please let me know your thoughts and comments.

What It Really Means to Love

If hate could heal the world, the world wouldn’t be this broken. Hate, like cancer, is eating into the earth like a vulture eats carcasses. Love, like healing rain, is the only web that unity, trust, understanding, faithfulness and truth can connect. The concept of love has not been over-emphasized: it has only been misconstrued.

Loving God (Deut 6:5) and loving your neighbour (Lev 19:18) were laws in the Torah that God instructed the people of Israel through Moses, so loving one another is an age-old concept. However, because there are different words for love in Greek, the “old” commandment sounded like this; Love God with the love of God (Greek: Agape) and love your neighbour with brotherly love (Greek: philia).

In John 21:15-17, Jesus asked Peter 3 times if he loves Him with the Love of God (agape). Peter responded that he loved Him as a brother (phileo). In other words, we are not fully loving if we do not love how Love loves. Love loves freely and fully. Love is not even fully manifested in brotherly love, which loves people of their kind only. It is only fully manifested in agape, the God-kind of Love. Love loves all the way through.

Jesus is saying He is giving us a new commandment. What makes this commandment new? Here it is; “As I have loved you”. A quick question anyone will ask is, “How do I love another with the Love of God?”. Jesus answered that perfectly; “As I have loved you”. Jesus is the epitome and embodiment of the Love of God. Romans 5:5 makes us understand that God continually pours His Love into our hearts. He wants you to love Him with this same Love, love yourself, and extend this same Love to others.

This love, of course, won’t make any sense to one who hasn’t encountered the Love of God. It won’t make sense to leave 99 sheep and go in search of one, except when you realize that that one lost sheep was you. It’s the kind of love that waits earnestly on the rooftop, eagerly hoping to see us return home. It’s the kind of love that sees our poor wretched souls from afar and meets us halfway, lavishing us with kisses even in our dirtiness.

This love is not the kind of Love that waits till you’re good enough. It’s the kind of Love that loves you good enough till everything sees it burning in your heart. This is a distinguishing Love: loving one another with the Love of God. God wants to love others through you too. “God loves you” is not enough to make the lost know he is worthy of love. Jesus wants this unconditional Love to be the distinguishing factor of His disciples. He said, “If you have a love for one another, then everyone will know that you are my disciples.”

Love like Him ❤️

Unveiling Spiritual Power: Exploring the Tabernacle Prayer by Dr. David Yonggi Cho

In the realm of spiritual practices that have stood the test of time, the Tabernacle Prayer, as taught by the late Dr. David Yonggi Cho, emerges as a profound and transformative method. Dr. Cho, a renowned South Korean pastor and co-founder of the Yoido Full Gospel Church, left an indelible mark on the Christian world, particularly through his teachings on prayer. One of his most impactful contributions is the Tabernacle Prayer, a practice that takes believers on a unique journey through the sacred spaces of the biblical Tabernacle. Let’s delve into the depth of this prayer method and explore how it can enrich our spiritual lives.

Understanding the Tabernacle Prayer:

The Tabernacle Prayer is a structured and symbolic approach to prayer based on the design of the Tabernacle described in the Old Testament. Dr. Cho emphasized the importance of following a specific order, akin to the pattern God revealed to Moses. The prayer unfolds in four key steps, each corresponding to a distinct section of the Tabernacle.

  1. The Outer Court – Praise and Thanksgiving:
    Begin the prayer by entering the Outer Court, representing a heart filled with praise and thanksgiving. This step aligns with the altar of burnt offerings, signifying surrender and gratitude for the sacrifice of Christ. Expressing thankfulness creates an atmosphere of humility and sets the stage for deeper communion with God.
  2. The Holy Place – Confession and Repentance:
    Move into the Holy Place, acknowledging the need for cleansing and repentance. Here, prayers are focused on the table of showbread (representing the Word of God) and the golden lampstand (symbolizing the Holy Spirit’s illumination). Dr. Cho stressed the importance of repentance as a means to draw closer to God and experience His transformative power.
  3. The Holy of Holies – Intercession and Petition:
    As you enter the Holy of Holies, symbolized by the Ark of the Covenant, shift your focus to intercession and petition. This is a sacred space where believers can earnestly pray for personal needs, the needs of others, and the world at large. Dr. Cho believed that effective intercession has the power to bring about significant change in individual lives and communities.
  4. The Brazen Altar – Declaration of Victory:
    Conclude the prayer at the Brazen Altar, the place of sacrifice and victory. Here, believers are encouraged to declare God’s promises and claim victory over challenges they may be facing. This step signifies the assurance of God’s faithfulness and the believer’s authority in Christ.

Benefits of the Tabernacle Prayer:

  • Structured Approach: The Tabernacle Prayer provides a systematic framework for prayer, guiding believers through distinct stages of spiritual intimacy.
  • Deeper Communion: By incorporating elements of praise, confession, intercession, and declaration, this prayer method facilitates a more profound connection with God.
  • Transformational Power: Dr. Cho believed that the Tabernacle Prayer, when practised with sincerity and faith, has the potential to bring about transformation in individual lives, relationships, and communities.

The Tabernacle Prayer, as taught by the late Dr. David Yonggi Cho, is a spiritual journey that transcends the boundaries of time and culture. It offers believers a structured and meaningful approach to prayer, inviting them to experience the richness of God’s presence in their lives. As we explore the sacred spaces of the Tabernacle through prayer, may we encounter the transformative power that Dr Cho passionately shared with the world?

Embracing Your Authentic Self: A Journey of Liberation

In a world that often encourages conformity, embracing your authentic self can be a revolutionary act of self-love and empowerment. Thus, the journey towards authenticity is a path paved with self-discovery, courage, and the unwavering commitment to living a life that aligns with your true essence.

Meet Sarah, a woman who, like many of us, spent years trying to fit into societal moulds. As a result, she moulded herself into the expectations of others, conforming to the standards set by society, family, and peers. Despite external success, there was an internal void that left her feeling unfulfilled and disconnected from her true self.

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One day, a spark ignited within Sarah. She realized that her life had become a series of roles she played rather than an authentic expression of who she was. This awakening led her to embark on a transformative journey to embrace her authentic self.

The first step on Sarah’s journey was self-reflection. She took the time to explore her passions, values, and beliefs. Through journaling and quiet introspection, she rediscovered the dreams she had buried beneath societal expectations. Regardless, Sarah realized that her authentic self was a vibrant, creative, and compassionate individual, eager to break free from the constraints of conformity.

With this newfound self-awareness, Sarah faced the fears that had kept her authenticity suppressed. She confronted the fear of judgment, the fear of disappointing others, and the fear of not being accepted for who she truly was. It was a challenging process, but Sarah knew that the key to embracing her authentic self lay in releasing these fears.

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Surrounding herself with a supportive community became crucial for Sarah’s journey. She sought out like-minded individuals who valued authenticity and encouraged her to shine as her true self. In effect, they created a safe space for vulnerability. They could share their struggles and triumphs on the path to authenticity.

Embracing her authentic self also meant setting boundaries. Sarah learned to say no to commitments that didn’t align with her values and priorities. This empowered her to focus on activities that brought her joy and fulfilment. In light of that, the more she honoured her true self, the more her life transformed into an authentic expression of her innermost desires.

As Sarah embraced her authenticity, she noticed a shift in her relationships. The people who truly cared about her well-being celebrated her newfound freedom and supported her journey. Those who couldn’t accept her authenticity gradually faded from her life. This made room for connections that were more aligned with her true self.

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The journey wasn’t without its challenges, but Sarah’s commitment to authenticity led to a sense of liberation she had never experienced before. As she embraced her authentic self, she discovered a profound inner peace and a deep connection with the world around her. Sarah’s story is a testament to the transformative power of embracing your true self. In like fashion, live a life that resonates with the core of your being.

In conclusion, the journey to embracing your authentic self is a courageous and liberating adventure. It involves self-reflection, facing fears, building a supportive community, and setting boundaries that honour your true essence. Sarah’s story serves as an inspiration to break free from needless conformity. Live a life that reflects the beauty of their authentic self. Remember, your authenticity is the key to unlocking a life of genuine happiness and fulfilment.

Unleashing the Power of SMART Goals: Your Roadmap to Success

Achieving success requires more than just lofty aspirations—it demands a strategic approach. Enter SMART goals, the secret sauce for turning dreams into reality. SMART, an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound, forms the foundation of goal-setting that’s not just smart but downright genius.

Specific: God in the Details

Let’s start by narrowing down the scope. Vague goals like “get in shape” lack the precision needed for success. Instead, opt for something like “run a 5K in under 30 minutes” or “learn conversational French.” God, they say, is in the details, and specificity is your compass.

Example: Instead of “lose weight,” aim for “lose 10 pounds by the end of March by adopting a daily 30-minute workout routine and a balanced diet.”

Measurable: Keep Score Like a Pro

If you can’t measure it, you can’t manage it. Setting measurable goals enables you to track your progress and stay motivated. Consider quantifiable metrics like dollars, hours, or pounds. Measurable goals ensure you know when you’ve crossed the finish line.

Example: Rather than “save money,” set a measurable goal like “save 500 cedis per month by cutting unnecessary expenses and creating a budget.”

Achievable: Dream Big, Start Small

While ambition is commendable, setting unattainable goals is a recipe for frustration. Ensure your goals are realistic and attainable within your current circumstances. Dream big, by all means, but start small to build momentum.

Example: Instead of “become a millionaire overnight,” aim to “increase monthly savings by 20% through smart investments over the next year.”

Relevant: Align with Your North Star

Your goals should align with your broader objectives and values. A relevant goal makes sense in the grand scheme of your life. If it doesn’t contribute to your overall vision, it might be time to reconsider.

Example: If your long-term goal is to become a successful entrepreneur, a relevant short-term goal could be to “complete a business course to enhance skills and knowledge.”

Time-bound: Racing Against the Clock

Time is the ultimate equalizer. A goal without a deadline is just a wish. Set a timeframe to create urgency and a sense of purpose. It propels you forward and prevents procrastination.

Example: Instead of “write a book,” set a time-bound goal like “finish the first draft of the book within six months by dedicating two hours every weekend to writing.”


SMART goals are the threads that weave dreams into reality. By incorporating specificity, measurability, achievability, relevance, and time-bound elements, you’re not just setting goals; you’re engineering a roadmap to triumph. So, gear up, dream big, and let your SMART goals pave the way to a brighter, more accomplished future.