Once upon a time, there were two best friends, named Jack and John. Jack was a talented musician who had been playing the guitar since he was a child. John was a brilliant mathematician who had won numerous awards for his work. One day, Jack was invited to play at a concert where he would be the opening act for a famous musician. He was excited about the opportunity and shared the news with John, who congratulated him and wished him the best of luck. However, as the day of the concert drew closer, John started to feel a pang of jealousy. He couldn’t help but compare himself to Jack and wonder why he wasn’t getting the same opportunities. He started to resent Jack for his success and began to distance himself from him.
On the day of the concert, John didn’t show up to support Jack. Instead, he stayed home feeling bitter and resentful. Meanwhile, Jack had a great performance and received a standing ovation from the audience. After the concert, he tried to call John to share his excitement, but John didn’t answer the phone. As the days passed, John’s jealousy turned into envy. He began to covet Jack’s success and wished he could have the same kind of recognition. He started to resent his own achievements in mathematics and became obsessed with the idea of being a famous musician like Jack. Eventually, John’s envy consumed him and he became bitter and unhappy. He started to distance himself from everyone and became isolated. Meanwhile, Jack continued to thrive and pursue his passion for music, grateful for the opportunities he gets.
One day, Jack decided to pay John a visit to check on him and see how he was doing. John initially hesitated to see Jack, but eventually, he agreed to meet with him. When Jack arrived at John’s house, he noticed how different his friend had become. John looked unhappy, isolated, and withdrawn. Jack asked him what was wrong, and John confessed his feelings of jealousy and envy.
Jack listened patiently as John poured out his heart, and then he offered him some advice. He told John that everyone has their own unique talents and passions and that it’s important to focus on what makes us happy, rather than comparing ourselves to others. Jack reminded John of how brilliant he was in mathematics, and how he had won numerous awards for his work. He told John that his accomplishments were just as impressive as his own and that he admired him for his intelligence and dedication.
John listened to Jack’s words, and they resonated with him. He realized that he had been so consumed with envy; he had forgotten to appreciate his own talents and accomplishments. He thanked Jack for his words of wisdom and promised to work on his feelings of jealousy and envy. From that day forward, John made a conscious effort to focus on his own passions and accomplishments. He continued to excel in mathematics and even started to collaborate with Jack on some musical projects. He found that by embracing his own talents, he could appreciate and admire others without feeling jealous or envious.
In the end, John and Jack remained close friends, and they continued to support each other in their respective fields. They both realized that jealousy and envy can be destructive emotions, but that they can also be overcome with a little self-reflection and self-appreciation.
So you see! Jealousy arises when someone threatens to take something you have because you feel they have a better chance of having it. Envy arises when someone else has something you had wished for although you feel you rather had a better chance of having it. To feel jealous, you need to have separation anxiety. To feel envious, you need to be insecure.
Jealousy vs Envy
The difference between jealousy and envy lies in their respective motivations and focus. Jealousy is a reactive emotion; it is a response to a perceived loss or threat, and it is usually accompanied by feelings of fear, anger, or frustration. Envy, on the other hand, is a proactive emotion that arises when we desire something that someone else possesses or enjoys. It is a desire to possess what someone else has, or to be like someone else. Envy is usually accompanied by feelings of resentment, bitterness, or dissatisfaction.
Jealousy focuses on the person who threatens or takes away something we value – leading to possessiveness, suspicion, and control – while envy focuses on the person who possesses or enjoys something we desire – leading to feelings of inadequacy, discontent, and resentment. In shorter terms, we become jealous of people and envious of things.
Jealousy can lead to envy if it’s not addressed, and envy can consume a person if it’s allowed to fester. It’s important to recognize these emotions and work through them in a healthy way so that they don’t negatively impact our relationships and our own well-being.